Imagine being told:
“You need to improve your presence.”
“Why can’t you think on your feet?”
“You don’t do well with conflict, do you?”
“You’re being defensive.”
As you move beyond your emotional reaction, you might ask if low self-esteem contributes to these statements. Is it theirs or yours?
What is self-esteem? Nathaniel Branden, the acclaimed author of “The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem” defines self-esteem as a combination of self-confidence and self-respect. In other words, if you have good self-esteem you feel competent and you feel valuable. Who doesn’t want to feel like that? That is, I can get the job done and I am worthy of the job.
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. As a leader how you feel about yourself impacts everything you do in your leadership role.
If you have high self-esteem, you’ll be more effective in having difficult conversations, delivering persuasive presentations, taking tough decisions and helping others course correct. People will see you as approachable, emotionally grounded and courageous. More of a leader!
You’ll have better relationships, be happier and be more motivated.
How can you improve your self-esteem? Stay tuned for my next blog post.
OK, one tip: hang out with others who have high esteem (and who you respect). It’s contagious!